Brendan Cole, villain of the UK’s
Strictly Come Dancing, serial womaniser, scourge of judges, arrogant alpha male.
It’s one hell of a reputation. But is it deserved?
Brendan was unknown until the resurrection of
Strictly Come Dancing in 2004. Since then he has shimmied, charmed and tantrumed his way into the public consciousness. However, feelings about him remain mixed, with the tabloid press eager to present the ‘bad boy’ persona and the SCD judges quick to make cutting comments about him to anyone who controls a printer. Even the normally kindly Bruno Tonioli has stooped to the odd swipe at Brendan’s personal life. His fans feel he is seriously misunderstood, pointing out that those who know him well speak of an entirely different person. So what’s the truth?
Well there’s an old biblical saying, which in a nutshell says look at your own life before you condemn others. So with that in mind, what has Brendan done that separates him from others and makes him so terrible?

His first ‘sin’ was the ending of his relationship with
Camilla Dallerup. This is presented in the UK press as the result of an affair with a certain UK newsreader. But is it the truth? Both Brendan and Natasha Kaplinsky have repeatedly denied any emotion other than on floor chemistry. Camilla herself has never actually claimed an affair occurred though she does cite Natasha coming into their lives as one reason for their break-up.

If actions speak louder then consider that Camilla remains a close friend of Brendan’s and he is also friends with her current boyfriend (Would you do that with a guy who cheated on you?). He still speaks of her with great affection. Could it simply be that after meeting as teenagers they grew apart and an attractive person at ‘work’ was the catalyst that sparked the end? Can you honestly say you have never flirted with a work colleague? It doesn’t make for exciting headlines, but it’s a story that occurs in non-celeb life many times.
Secondly he is a
vocal critic of the judges on SCD. I have rarely noticed personal digs other than the occasional aside about
Craig RH being camp (rude but unlikely to make Mr RH too upset). However, he does frequently take them to task perhaps somewhat bluntly over their judgments, especially if he feels they are unfair. He has unselfishly done so in defence of others rather than himself. This does make for glorious TV and is reminiscent of the playground in a very enjoyable way. I would have assumed that this was part of the show if it was not for the catty comments that they return, usually behind his back.

So far he has been called amongst other things, an arsehole, a slimeball and the old chestnut, womaniser. Mocking remarks about the demise of his relationship with Camilla, his failure to meet another partner and his appearances on dubious reality TV shows also abound. Recently he has been holding his temper and attempting explanations rather than tantrums. However this hasn’t stopped the bitchiness at the judges’ table. Saucers of milk all round.
He is also described as arrogant. Well this is one I can understand. He does appear to be pretty opinionated when it comes to his dancing or judging on
DWTS or SCD. But he’s a pretty good dancer who’s been in the business since aged 6. When is comes to other subjects, confidence is less apparent and he can come across as nervous and unsure. He’s fairly quick to offer his thoughts on others and this is something he could do with curtailing. Let us remember however the man is barely past thirty. It takes a while to learn diplomacy. Mr RH is 12 years older and still struggling.
So our last accusation, womanising. The male equivalent of being called a slut. He claims this is vastly overstated. Let’s have a look at the facts. He was in a relationship from age 19 –28 (the time most young men are acting like rabbits) with one woman that they both describe as very happy and they remain friends. For the last 3 years he’s been single other than a couple of flings. He’s a young man with a shed load of testosterone in his system if his muscles provide any measure. What the heck do you expect?
In conclusion, I am not convinced of the prosecution’s case.
- Claudia Winkleman, UK TV presenter, recently described him like this, “I love Brendan. If I needed a Lemsip at 4 a.m. he’d bring me one”.
- His last girlfriend, Adele Silva from UK soapie Emmerdale said, “Brendan treated me like a princess. I haven’t a bad word to say about him”. She also said he had an amazing body. Well anyone who reads Cosmopolitan knows that!.
- Gethin Jones who partnered Camilla in the last SCD, “I speak as I find and I find Brendan to be helpful and pleasant. He even helps me with some of my moves”.
- Kelly Brook, “Brendan’s a lot more vulnerable than he lets on”
So perhaps he’s highly strung and needs to shut his mouth quicker than currently. But signs indicate he’s learning this, albeit slowly. Does this make him an arsehole? Underneath the alpha male exterior, there are glimpses of a sweet guy who (in the author’s humble opinion) is just in need of a good woman to keep him happy. I hope he finds her.
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
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